Perfectionism

In some kind of way I might be a perfectionist. The tendency of wanting to do things perfectly or I wouldn't even dare to put myself out there. I have a standard of how things should go and even if it means being too critical of myself, I'd attempt to push myself because no one else is going to do that for you. Possibly for certain aspects in life, that was out of your control where you weren't able to achieve the things you wanted to. However, maturing is realising that we now have the responsibility to change that. 

Yet it's difficult to not put the past against yourself and have a difficult time forgiving something you did in the past. So I end up holding back. With that desire of having just the 'perfect moment', I hold back from creating, from speaking, from stepping out of that comfort zone. Instead, by hyper fixating on everything we've done wrong and not allowing ourselves to acknowledge the things we've done right. 

When have I allowed myself to actually feel proud about my achievements?

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